Ok guys here’s my first post, watch out because I am gunning for the extra sandwich at B4H!! (If you want to know what that’s all about, just ask.)
On a serious note, I often ponder the goals and aspirations of our foundation, as we are in the newborn stage with so much ahead of us. I think about what we have in common with fellow organizations and also which aspects set us apart. If you are someone who doesn’t know much about our foundation, you may be thinking the same thing: “what are these people all about?” Whether you are reading this as someone who is contemplating volunteering with us, a potential donor, someone who followed the Twitter link (thanks!), or you just stumbled upon this blog via a random search, I have a question for you. When you learned (or if you are for the first time) that the 25/35 Foundation has as its primary goal to alleviate homelessness in San Bernardino County, what was your immediate reaction? I’ll give you second to think about it.
I ask this because there are times when I am describing our foundation to someone for the first time, and although they are listening intently, I can tell by their expression that they are thinking something along the lines of “ok that’s great, but another group that wants to help the homeless?” It is not hard to fall into that frame of mind, and it doesn’t necessarily imply indifference on behalf of that person; it is simply a reaction. This experience brings me to the aspect of the 25/35 Foundation that I find so unique, which is the contention that on some level, we all suffer and experience the homeless condition, and more importantly, by recognizing this, we can do much to positively impact the time and space we occupy.
For me, as of late I have been experiencing the poverty of loneliness. A little background is in order. I have been living “on my own” for just over five years now. I first lived in a house in Upland with a roommate that was rarely there for about a year and a half. I then had my own apartment in Pomona for 2½ years, and now I live in a house in Chino with a roommate I rarely see (again, but not the same one from Upland). So it’s been interesting that ever since I moved out of my parent’s house I have essentially lived alone. Now, I have a great group of friends and a big, fun-loving family, but as my friends and I have “aged” we now see each other much less frequently, as is to be expected. Over the years, coming home to an empty, quiet residence has mostly been a blessing, but over the past year, as I have devoted more time to my business and my friends lives have gotten more and more busy, the quiet, empty nights have had the reality of being desolate. It has been during these times, while difficult, that I have reminded myself how lucky I am. With my involvement in 25/35, I have recognized a small sliver of the feeling of material (or “traditional”) homelessness, specifically the inability to share one’s hopes, joys, fears, and doubts with a fellow human.
Almost simultaneously with me experiencing these feelings would be encounters in daily life with people whom I could tell were also lonely in some way. Whether it was an elderly man who came into my shop, a single mother at the post office, or a middle-aged woman at McDonalds, being in tune with my homeless condition of loneliness allowed me to temporarily set aside my wants and needs to engage them, from a simple “Hello” to a conversation about whatever. The beauty was that it was all so subtle. To me that is very empowering and mutually beneficial.
There is something innately in human instinct that by being aware of our deficiencies we become able to detect those same deficiencies in others, probably because we see a little bit of ourselves in them. Embracing this simple idea can go far to alleviate the homeless condition of individuals we meet in the daily course of our life. It is a way all of us can perpetuate the mission and goals of the 25/35 Foundation, and you don’t even have to write a check or give your time! By accomplishing these small, unnoticed goals, we assure ourselves of the success of larger ones.
-P.I. Perez